There
is so much self help published in the world right now. Everyone and their mama
is a guru of the feel goods, publishing memes and books and e-courses faster
than the grass can welcome spring. This is mostly good-ish, right? It pushes
more positivity into our collective unconscious and encourages us to grow and
not become complacent or fixed in our mindsets.
But
sometimes it's a little bad-ish. It's bad-ish when it's hyper-accomplishment
focused; when it turns acceptance of ourselves into the height of zeitgeist and
makes it something we all must push ourselves, and our unfailingly high
expectations of ourselves, into attaining, lest we be passé or slacking
for struggling and being open about it. It’s bad-ish when it doesn’t make space for those oft inherited voices in our head,
the ones we are all battling, the ones that say we haven’t achieved enough and we aren’t worthy of what we have or better. We know these voices aren’t helping us, and we’re fighting them, but we don’t need to be made to feel bad or even more unworthy
for having them. The self help is bad
when it becomes narrow perfectionism masked in zen.
I offer
you this: I hope you have moments of
#RadicalSelfLove on those days when you just absolutely crush life. I also hope
you don't judge yourself too harshly when that #RSL feeling is fleeting and you
fuck up a bit. My fervent wish for you
is that you can develop a deep and abiding self tolerance that you carry in
your heart day-by-day. This deep and abiding self tolerance will help you surf
the waves of both the Radical Self Love and Wretched Self Hatred that life
occasionally brings, as a condition of our humanness, without causing an
unmooring of your purpose and path.
We are
not perfect, nor are we supposed to be. That's why we're "here",
having a human experience and not "there" having a divine one. We are
here for the joy and the pain. Make room for both, leave the door unlocked and
two empty seats at the kitchen table. Sure, maybe welcome joy to the table with
a little more encouragement and enthusiasm, but don't lock out or starve the
pain; it has a back door key.
#RadicalSelfLove
#RSL #DeepandAbidingSelfTolerance #DAST
#Rambling&Lovely
